Your friend is right. Being a spouse means being a friend and a partner. Dave was never your partner and he was certainly NEVER your friend. Fuck Dave. Also? Fuck Taylor on Twitter and his micropenis. Eat shit, Taylor.
Laura, your journey of self awareness is remarkable to experience as a reader. I was telling a mutual friend that the way that your writing has evolved is so impressive. I cannot and will not comment on anything that you have gone through and are still experiencing, but your voice is so authentic and important that I cannot wait for your future writing.
You are amazing to have survived what you did. Don't let the rando haters on twitter get you down. Look after yourself & may you go from strength to strength
I’ve read your writing on Substack for a while now, and I feel for you. I wish we could all use the connectedness of the internet like you: for good, to share our experiences and thoughts. Your writings make the world a better place. Thank you for your work.
I am married to a wonderful woman, who went through an experience similar to yours. We still discuss this often, as she lost her kids as well, so the damage endures. When the guilt builds up or is triggered, remember he got you at 20, vulnerable and with no support. You are not to blame for this. I so glad that you managed to get out and build a new life. I love your writing!
Fucking feel for you. I'm not sure if that's comfortable for you to hear, but it's the truth. Wish you will be seen another world now, a world that only wants to give you good and nuturing things. I know that's not exactly how life works, but it's my wish for you. I can't explain this connection I feel with you, my words don't seem to formulate around this. Don't expect anything back from you, just want you to know you are seen, appreciated, and cared about.
Laura, I thank you for sharing this very personal experience. We are guardians of our Granddaughter. Her mother was abusing her mentally and physically. Her mother too is Narcissistic. Always the victim never owning up to her actions, always our or someone else’s fault. Your writing is a path to healing and I wish for you and your children happiness and peace!
Amazing essay, thank you very much for sharing. Such a balanced and thoughtful reflection on what must have been an impossibly hard time.
Recently, my girlfriend and I have been arguing a bit, but after reading, I have a bit more perspective. Your story is a good reminder that a relationship is about two people’s opinions, and it’s probably healthier to have clashes than just have one person dictate everything.
Sorry to make it about me, but seriously, thank you. I wish you and your children all the best!
Just seeing this again, and also struggling with me self worth and mental health today. Still sucks to think about whether I could have done more in my marriage to keep it healthy or if it just wasn't meant to be from the beginning or whatever. I know you have your own problems though, hope I'm not being a burden with this comment.
Your friend is right. Being a spouse means being a friend and a partner. Dave was never your partner and he was certainly NEVER your friend. Fuck Dave. Also? Fuck Taylor on Twitter and his micropenis. Eat shit, Taylor.
Thank you, love you ❤️❤️❤️
You've got this <3
You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone, especially not sad men who don’t understand their privilege
❤️🫶🫶
Thank you for sharing this. I came very close to being in a marriage like this when I was 26.
The addiction was different, and I never experienced the severity you did, but two years in a relationship with him took its toll.
I'm glad you're out of it. I hope you have more loving people around you now. ❤️
Laura, your journey of self awareness is remarkable to experience as a reader. I was telling a mutual friend that the way that your writing has evolved is so impressive. I cannot and will not comment on anything that you have gone through and are still experiencing, but your voice is so authentic and important that I cannot wait for your future writing.
Thanks, Chris this really means a lot to me ❤️❤️
This was very beautiful. Thank you for sharing this.
You are amazing to have survived what you did. Don't let the rando haters on twitter get you down. Look after yourself & may you go from strength to strength
I’ve read your writing on Substack for a while now, and I feel for you. I wish we could all use the connectedness of the internet like you: for good, to share our experiences and thoughts. Your writings make the world a better place. Thank you for your work.
Thank you for sharing your writing and voice. It certainly cracked me right open and inspired me to write bravely.
@Erin Shetron - this will take you alllll the way through the cry/spark/numb cycle and be amazed for it
whoa. that was so, so good. the distance from it paired with the vulnerability… what beautiful writing. thank you for sharing Maddie <3
Great writing! Enjoying the comments too. 😅
What's your favourite essay you've published?
On top of the abuse you experienced from your ex, you also have these awful comments to deal with. I’m sorry you have to deal with that too.
These comments are wild.
I am married to a wonderful woman, who went through an experience similar to yours. We still discuss this often, as she lost her kids as well, so the damage endures. When the guilt builds up or is triggered, remember he got you at 20, vulnerable and with no support. You are not to blame for this. I so glad that you managed to get out and build a new life. I love your writing!
Fucking feel for you. I'm not sure if that's comfortable for you to hear, but it's the truth. Wish you will be seen another world now, a world that only wants to give you good and nuturing things. I know that's not exactly how life works, but it's my wish for you. I can't explain this connection I feel with you, my words don't seem to formulate around this. Don't expect anything back from you, just want you to know you are seen, appreciated, and cared about.
❤️❤️❤️
Laura, I thank you for sharing this very personal experience. We are guardians of our Granddaughter. Her mother was abusing her mentally and physically. Her mother too is Narcissistic. Always the victim never owning up to her actions, always our or someone else’s fault. Your writing is a path to healing and I wish for you and your children happiness and peace!
Thank you, Marc ❤️❤️
I love you. And yes.
Love you! ❤️❤️
Amazing essay, thank you very much for sharing. Such a balanced and thoughtful reflection on what must have been an impossibly hard time.
Recently, my girlfriend and I have been arguing a bit, but after reading, I have a bit more perspective. Your story is a good reminder that a relationship is about two people’s opinions, and it’s probably healthier to have clashes than just have one person dictate everything.
Sorry to make it about me, but seriously, thank you. I wish you and your children all the best!
Just seeing this again, and also struggling with me self worth and mental health today. Still sucks to think about whether I could have done more in my marriage to keep it healthy or if it just wasn't meant to be from the beginning or whatever. I know you have your own problems though, hope I'm not being a burden with this comment.